Coition After Pregnancy
It is imperative that the lady, after she has delivered the child, should have complete rest in bed for, at least, three weeks. In post-delivery period, child’s care is the major concern, hence she may not be able to support and respond to her husband’s sexual advances as heretofore, even though she is now in a far better and healthy mental frame but, even then, may lack in attending to her husband’s sex needs. The method, as suggested in the foregoing paragraphs, may be adhered to. Any act, overt or covert, must not be construed as a signal of hatred or neglect otherwise it can cause long lasting feud between them.
Once there is reemergence of menses, the lady will herself invite her husband. But, I feel, a sex holiday for at least six weeks is all the more necessary. Such a recess will augur well for the lady’s general health. Further, if another conception takes place soon after first child’s birth, mother’s health won’t stay in normal condition, apart from adversely affecting new-born’s rearing up process and also putting a family’s financial resources under strain. The lady has to be more selective, discreet and prudent in working out priorities with regard to her own self, husband and child—rather family as a whole, as she is the sole pivot of all the family activities and virtues.
It has been rightly said that family is the eternal home of civic virtues—rather it is in the family that one learns dynamics of various relationships, interaction parleys, behavior and temperamental attitudes, social behavior etc. Let us not overlook and forget role of a mother who is a prime instrument in molding a child’s multi-faceted personality. There cannot be a better teacher than a mother who, sadly, is a neglected lot and not much has still been done, cogent and useful, to salvage her lost prestige and status in India, at least. If we wish to have a healthy nation, let us first of all, take care of lady of the house, in whose absence/illness, entire house and all members go into disarray. Most of the Indian women are not assertive like their western counterparts—rather the former are much more submissive, relenting, yielding and prefer to play a second fiddle.
Let us not forget that ‘gods live there, where women are worshiped’ which saying seems to be merely a euphoria and not a reality. If men folk desire to enjoy a happy and healthy family life, they must ensure that lady of the house is cared/looked after well. If anything is done to the contrary, there is nothing ahead, except a total calamitous devastation. The ladies, too, have to ensure that they also contribute their mite in this respect, as total well-being and health is their concern too. The ladies have to themselves create a niche for themselves. Remember the old good maxim ‘If you laugh the world will laugh with you but, if you weep, you weep alone.’ Then the simplest and easiest bargain is to laugh and create situations wherein others also could laugh and, still better, laugh with you and share your happiness and joy.
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