I am a 15-year-old girl. The other day, I chanced upon my parents having sex. Now, I cannot get the image out of my mind and feel ashamed and angry. I suppose it is normal for married couples and they are my parents, so there is really no harm. Yet, I can’t help feeling terribly embarrassed. Is it okay to be angry about such a thing? Is sex so important?
Your reaction is understandable. For children, this can be a tumultuous experience that leaves them feeling confused. However, it is important to understand that every relationship has its own meaning. When you were a child, your parents hugged and kissed you to demonstrate their love. Everyone needs a bit of physical closeness to feel loved and wanted. Children need it from their parents and married couples need it from each other. How you look at sex determines how you feel about what you saw. Most associate it with something dirty and sinful, which it is not. In fact, sex is the heightened expression and most of the time, the culmination of intense love. Children are born out of this beautiful union; so, it is something to be celebrated at the right time and with a great deal of responsibility. You are obviously embarrassed as you stumbled upon a very private activity and felt like an intruder. Normally, one is not used to watching parents display their affection so openly. When it happens, it comes as a rude shock, as we forget that parents too have their needs and their special, very intimate moments. Sex is very natural and intensely emotional. It’s an extremely important part of a man-woman relationship. Your parents are human. Let them be. And yes, do knock before you enter their room.

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