Excuse of Sex in Date
My friends and I always have this debate: If you’re on a date and he wants to hook up but you have your period, should you tell him the truth or make up an excuse?
If you’re talking about the early stages of dating, like the first couple of months, don’t even think about mentioning your monthly friend. It may seem perfectly natural to you, but for him, well, ifs kind of icky. Guys have a particularly dysfunctional relationship with your period. They want you to have it each month (unless you’re actively trying to have a kid); they just don’t want the gory details.
To let him know that tonight is not the night – without revealing the ins and outs of your menstrual cycle – I suggest using another physical ailment as an excuse. “I’m feeling a little nauseous after that dinner” is a good way to let him down without bruising his ego. Just be sure to follow up the next day with a flirty phone call or text message that lets him know you were bummed to end the night early. As long as you make up for it another time, he won’t care whether or not you were lying. Once you’re past the whole dating stage and well into a relationship, your dude should be able to handle the truth. If not, he’s too immature to be having sex in the first place.
I’ve been faking orgasms with my guy for months now. I kept thinking that I’d eventually have one, but it hasn’t happened yet and now I’m just getting frustrated. The worst part is, my beau keeps doing the same things over and over, and using tricks he thinks actually work on me. I want to show him how to please me, but I don’t know how to tell him without revealing the truth. How do I talk to him without crushing his ego?
Here’s something I’ve just never understood about women: Why they’re so afraid to give guys a little direction. Believe me, we appreciate the tips. How else are we supposed to learn the right way to pleasure you – by watching porn? You’d hate that.
And now, you’ve gone months with this guy, and he has yet to give you an orgasm. As much as you want to get off though, I think you’re right to tread lightly. If after all this time you tell him the moaning was just an act, you’re not only going to destroy his self-esteem, but he may never trust you in bed again.
Instead, I would just try and start with a clean slate. The next time you’re getting it on, tell your guy that you want him to try something different, and show him exactly what you like. Once he picks up on all the right moves, be sure to let him know how much you like it. If he reverts back to his old ways, gently suggest, “You know, I love what you did the other night – can we try that again?” With some turn-you-on training, your formerly so-so stud will become a rock star in the sack.